Truth, Moral Failure, and the Limits of Discernment

Truth does not derive its authority from the moral consistency of the one who speaks it, but from the reality God created that the truth describes.

Debates about whether the work of a Christian author should be discarded after the discovery of moral failure often hinge on an unexamined assumption. The assumption is that three distinct forms of judgment belong to the same category. They do not. Moral evaluation, epistemic evaluation, and discernment serve different purposes, operate by different criteria, and answer different questions.

Moral evaluation asks whether an action or life conforms to ethical norms. Epistemic evaluation asks whether a claim is true, coherent, or reliable. Discernment concerns how a reader or community should engage with a work in light of both truth and moral considerations. Confusion arises when a failure in the first category is treated as a decisive judgment in the second, rather than as input to the third.

Christian theology has historically grounded epistemic authority not in personal righteousness but in creation itself. Scripture affirms that the world is intelligible because it is ordered by God, not because it is observed by the morally consistent. “The heavens declare the glory of God” (Psalm 19:1) regardless of who studies them. Human beings, made in God’s image (Genesis 1:26–27), possess genuine though finite capacities to perceive and articulate truth.

This framework underlies what theologians have described as common grace. John Calvin argues that God distributes real insight broadly, even among those whose lives are morally compromised (Institutes, II.2). Scripture reflects this reality repeatedly. David’s psalms remain central to Christian worship despite grave moral failure. Solomon’s wisdom continues to instruct despite his eventual corruption. Paul explicitly acknowledges that Christ can be proclaimed from corrupt motives while remaining genuinely proclaimed (Philippians 1:15–18).

If moral failure automatically invalidates epistemic authority, then truth becomes unstable. Knowledge would remain provisionally acceptable only until new biographical information emerges. Epistemic evaluation would be displaced by moral investigation, and truth would be treated as morally contagious rather than as correspondence to reality. This is not how Scripture treats truth, nor how responsible scholarship operates.

A common counterargument holds that continuing to use such work implicitly endorses the author or normalizes their sin. This objection confuses epistemic evaluation with discernment. Discernment may indeed require contextualization, caution, or limitation of use. It does not require pretending that true insights become false once their messenger is exposed as broken. Reading Augustine does not endorse his sexual immorality, nor does praying the psalms endorse David’s abuse of power. Christian maturity consists precisely in holding moral clarity and intellectual honesty together.

Another objection claims that spiritual formation materials differ categorically from scientific or academic works because they shape character. Yet Scripture itself refuses this separation. Wisdom literature, prophecy, and apostolic teaching are mediated through deeply flawed individuals, and readers are consistently instructed to test what is taught rather than to certify the moral completeness of the teacher (Acts 17:11; 1 Thessalonians 5:21). Formation depends on truth rightly received, not on the moral perfection of its source.

Applied consistently, the rejection principle leads to untenable conclusions. It would require Christians to exclude non Christian sources from psychology, literature, or philosophy unless their authors are converted, and perhaps only to accept work produced after conversion. This position conflicts with the Christian doctrine of creation and with historic Christian engagement with learning. As Proverbs 2:6 states, “The Lord gives wisdom,” not “only through morally unblemished messengers.”

Philosophically, the distinction is well established. Thomas Aquinas grounds truth in the conformity of the intellect to reality, not in the virtue of the knower (Summa Theologiae, I.16). Alvin Plantinga similarly argues that Christian belief explains why human cognition can reliably produce true beliefs without requiring moral perfection as a prerequisite (Warranted Christian Belief).

None of this minimizes the seriousness of moral failure. Moral evaluation must remain uncompromising. But epistemic evaluation must remain principled, and discernment must remain disciplined. When these categories are collapsed, truth is destabilized and discernment is reduced to exclusion rather than wisdom.

Christian maturity requires holding these distinctions clearly. Truth remains grounded in the reality God has made, not in the moral consistency of those who describe it. Recognizing this does not weaken holiness. It makes discernment possible.

Three Distinct Forms of Judgment (Often Confused)

Much of the confusion in debates about moral failure and authorship arises from collapsing three distinct categories of judgment. Clarifying these categories is essential for disciplined discernment.

1. Moral Evaluation
Question: Is this action or pattern of behavior ethically wrong?
Focus: Character, conduct, responsibility, accountability.
Standards: Moral law, Scripture, conscience, ethical norms.

Moral evaluation addresses whether an individual’s actions conform to what is right and good. It is concerned with sin, repentance, accountability, and the protection of others. Moral failure rightly demands clear judgment and appropriate response.

2. Epistemic Evaluation
Question: Is this claim true, coherent, or reliable?
Focus: Truth value, accuracy, correspondence to reality.
Standards: Evidence, reason, coherence, fruitfulness.

Epistemic evaluation assesses whether an idea, insight, or argument is true or useful. It does not ask whether the speaker is morally upright, but whether what is being said corresponds to reality.

3. Discernment
Question: How should this work be engaged, used, limited, or contextualized?
Focus: Wisdom in application and reception.
Standards: Love of truth, moral clarity, pastoral sensitivity, prudence.

Discernment integrates moral and epistemic judgments without collapsing them. It considers audience, context, potential harm, and formative impact. Discernment may lead to caution, reframing, or limitation of use, but it does not require denying truth because of moral failure.

Category Collapse Occurs When:

  • Moral failure is treated as proof that a claim is false.
  • Using a work is assumed to endorse the author’s life.
  • Discernment is reduced to exclusion rather than wise engagement.

The Impact of Category Collapse in Spiritual Abuse

How Spiritual Abuse Relies on Category Collapse

Whenever authority dismisses experience, moralizes development, spiritualizes harm, or relocates responsibility from actions to internal states, category collapse is being used to exert control.

Spiritual abuse is real, but the victim does not understand the primary mover: category collapse. Spiritual abuse is not about overt control. It is about epistemic control – controlling what counts as real, true, or legitimate.

1. The Core Pattern of Spiritual Abuse

Spiritual abuse works by collapsing categories selectively to:

  • Silence experience.
  • Override agency.
  • Preserve authority.
  • Avoid accountability.

The abuser does not deny all categories, only the ones that threaten power.

2. The Three Categories – A stable triad:

Category A — Ontological Reality

  • What exists independently of perception.
  • God, moral truth, events, history.
  • “What is.”

Category B — Lived / Perceptual Reality

Experience, memory, and nervous system response

  • Meaning-making, fear, shame, safety.
  • “What is felt and interpreted.”

Category C — Formative / Volitional Reality

  • Habits, character, neural wiring.
  • Identity-in-formation.
  • Future trajectories.
  • “What is becoming.”

Spiritual abuse requires these to be blurred.

3. The Four Primary Abusive Collapses

Collapse Type 1: Invalidation
Ontological → Perceptual

Statement pattern

“That didn’t really happen.”
“That’s just your perception.”
“You’re interpreting it wrong.”

What’s happening

  • Category B (experience) is dismissed
  • Under the guise of defending Category A (truth)

Why it’s abusive

  • Experience is erased.
  • Memory is delegitimized.
  • Trauma is reframed as rebellion or weakness.

Result

  • Gaslighting.
  • Shame.
  • Self-distrust.

Collapse Type 2: Blame Transfer
Perceptual → Ontological

Statement pattern

“Your thoughts caused this.”
“You manifested the outcome.”
“If you had more faith, this wouldn’t have happened.”

What’s happening

  • Category B (perception/thought) is elevated, and is …
  • Illegitimately made causative of Category A (events, harm)

Why it’s abusive

  • Responsibility is shifted to the victim.
  • External wrongdoing disappears.
  • Authority is absolved.

Result

  • Moral injury.
  • Internalized guilt.
  • Suppression of protest.

Collapse Type 3: Moral Overreach
Formative → Ontological

Statement pattern

“If you were spiritually mature, you wouldn’t feel this way.”
“Your anxiety proves a lack of faith.”

What’s happening

  • Category C (formation-in-progress) is treated …
  • As if it were Category A (fixed moral status)

Why it’s abusive

  • Developmental process is moralized.
  • Healing becomes performance.
  • Growth is replaced with judgment.

Result

  • Perfectionism.
  • Fear-based compliance.
  • Arrested development.

Collapse Type 4: Coercive Spiritualization
Ontological → Formative

Statement pattern

“God is using this to shape you.”
“Submit, and you’ll be transformed.”

What’s happening

  • Real harm (Category A) is rebranded …
  • As divinely mandated formation (Category C)

Why it’s abusive

  • Abuse becomes sacred.
  • Resistance becomes sin.
  • Exit becomes apostasy.

Result

  • Learned helplessness.
  • Trauma bonding.
  • Spiritual captivity.

4. Why Category Collapse Is So Effective

Because it:

  • Sounds spiritual
  • Uses true words in false ways
  • Exploits trust in God-language
  • Bypasses consent and agency
  • Leverages fear of being “wrong before God”

Spiritual abuse is structural, not merely interpersonal. Because these categories are often blurred –

  • Ontological Reality
  • Lived / Perceptual Reality
  • Formative / Volitional Reality

Summary

Spiritual abuse does not begin with cruelty; it begins with confusion. Specifically, it begins when distinct categories of reality are collapsed in ways that benefit authority and silence the person. When lived experience is dismissed in the name of “truth,” when formation is moralized as failure, or when harm is rebranded as divine intention, the problem is not faith – it is epistemic coercion.

Restoring clarity to these categories restores agency. Ontological reality tells us what happened. Lived reality tells us how it was experienced. Formative reality tells us what is still unfolding. None of these invalidate the others, and none may be weaponized to erase responsibility, suppress protest, or sanctify harm.

Naming category collapse exposes the mechanism behind spiritual abuse without requiring cynicism toward God, growth, or truth itself. It allows victims to trust their experience without absolutizing it, to pursue healing without moral condemnation, and to reclaim consent in their spiritual formation.

Clarity is not rebellion. Differentiation is not unbelief. And refusing collapse is not resistance to God – it is resistance to abuse.

Understanding Ontological, Lived, and Formative Realities

Ontological reality concerns what is; lived reality concerns how what is is experienced; and formative reality concerns what a person is becoming through attention and choice over time.

In the next few posts, I’m going to discuss spiritual abuse. To kick things off, here’s a primer, the definitions pinning the foundations of spiritual abuse.

Why These Distinctions Matter

Understanding the distinctions between these reality categories helps to:

  • Prevent spiritual abuse.
  • Protect individual agency.
  • Honor trauma reality without resorting to mysticism.
  • Enable growth without moral judgment.
  • Integrate theology and neuroscience in a coherent way.
  • Recognize the differences among these realities.

Ontological Reality

Definition

Ontological reality refers to what exists and is true independently of human perception, interpretation, or belief.

Key characteristics

  • Exists whether or not it is perceived.
  • Is not created by thought, emotion, or belief.
  • Includes facts, events, moral truths, and historical occurrences.
  • Provides the ground against which all experience is measured.

Examples

  • A harmful act occurred.
  • Gravity operates.
  • God exists.
  • A boundary was violated.
  • A contract was breached.

Common errors

  • Denying ontological reality by appealing to perception (“that’s just how you feel”).
  • Treating belief as causative of truth (“if you believed rightly, this wouldn’t be true”).

Lived / Perceptual Reality

Definition

Lived or perceptual reality refers to how reality is experienced, interpreted, and embodied by a person through perception, memory, emotion, and meaning-making.

Key characteristics

  • Subjective but real.
  • Mediated by the nervous system.
  • Shaped by memory, trauma, culture, and expectation.
  • Determines what feels true or threatening.
  • Does not define what is true.

Examples

  • Feeling unsafe despite being physically safe.
  • Experiencing shame after a boundary violation.
  • Interpreting silence as rejection.
  • Trauma memories activating fear in the present.

Common errors

  • Dismissing lived reality as imaginary or sinful.
  • Elevating lived reality into ultimate truth.

Formative / Volitional Reality

Definition

Formative or volitional reality refers to what is becoming true over time through attention, choice, habit, practice, and repetition.

Key characteristics

  • Developmental and process-oriented.
  • Shaped by volition and sustained practice.
  • Influences identity, character, and future behavior.
  • Bridges present experience and future outcomes.
  • Neither fixed nor instantaneous.

Examples

  • Neural pathways being rewired through grounding.
  • Character formed through repeated choices.
  • Trust rebuilt over time.
  • Patterns of avoidance or engagement becoming habitual.

Common errors

  • Treating formation as fixed moral status.
  • Moralizing unfinished development.
  • Expecting instantaneous transformation.